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读者们，

很不幸的告知大家我最近又得忙着搬家了。不知何故，这部落格网站容量很快就被用尽。为长久之计，我决定尝试物色其他网站，随之继续我未完成的专栏。

抱歉我中心的读者与朋友们，近期实在不得空，所以把网页给搁着了。有好多新鲜事还没来得及来这儿分享。在找到新的网站之前，还请各位多见谅包含，并且耐心等候佳音。

保证我会加紧速度，减少大家等待时间。


诚心向所有支持我专栏的读者们道谢！谢谢你们的到访，我以无限感激的心真心欢迎各位！也希望到访的朋友们在旁边的留言箱写些东西吧，好让我知道您也是我的贵宾之一。


还有，要像那些曾在部落格下方留言的读者们说声抱歉。最近才发现原来有读者私人留言，我大意，没发觉，请见谅！往后我会多加注意！

预祝：继续幸福！

Dear readers,

I am really sorry for the waiting and unfortunately, I am about to change a new blog address. It has been so strange, the memory for my blog kept using up really fast and I have absolutely no clue how does it happen. 

However, I am trying to work things out here, either finding a new website for blogging or start another blog with different address. Cross fingers and promise that I will solve it as soon as possible so I can continue updating more exciting stories that happened recently. Be patient and keep an eye on it!

P.s. be happy and optimist, all the time...

J.C.

合约基本知识 Fundamental of Contract

[法律条例，课本，案例本，练习本，参考书。。］

[Statutes, textbooks, casebooks, exercise books, reference books...]

我虽然脾气硬，嘴巴吐不出好话，要求多。。。但是我人其实还算好。。大方的我从今天起会常点把上课所得到的知识，透过我的一篇篇文章，传授一些法律的基本知识给社会人士们，以便大家在日常生活中可以受用，并开始关注各种不同的法律领域，专有名词和法律主要所提倡的 “人权”。

As I am such a good and generous lady, from now on, I promise that I will share part of my knowledge about my course - LLB Law and management degree with all my fellow and royal readers. Therefore people can start to be caution every details in life are actually linked to the law, discover different categories and parts of law and also be aware of our own rights which known as "Human Rights".

很多人会认为普通要有合同，要签名／署名的才叫做 “合约”，就是我们平时说的 Contract。其实不然。生活中几乎每一天，我们都会与各种不同的人立下合约，很多时侯甚至是在你没有预警或察觉的情况下，其实你和某人的和约已经成立。

Normally people assume that there should be agreement, documentation, signature to consider as a contract. However, its not always the case. In the daily life, we tend to make different types of contracts without awareness or caution.

最简单的例子，买东西。其实购买商品就是最基本和常见的合约成立方式。怎么会？

For instance, purchasing a good is the most basic example of making a contract. But how?

要完成并且成立合约，主要有两个步奏。

There are several steps that we have to go through for making a contract.

一，一方（甲）提出／示出一些东西或条件－－Offer。

二，另一方（乙）接受所开的条件／事物－－Acceptance。

一旦乙接受该项事物的那一刻，和约立马成立！

Firstly, we need something called Offer. Offer means that someone (suppose A) offering something for other people (suppose B).

The second crutial thing we need is Acceptance. Suppose at the moment when B accept the offer made from A, there will be a contract, enforceable contract.

例子 Example：

小王子要卖他的LV包给小公主，售价 1,000 元。－－这个举动称Offer

如果公主只是想买那个LV包，合约是不成立的，因为她必须要付诸行动证明她真的要买。

如果小公主决定买了，并且把 1,000 元交给王子，那么在小王子收到钱的那一刻，合约就立刻自动成立，也就成立法律：货物买卖条款 1979，第2条，第1－5项条例。

Mr. Prince intend to sell his LV bag with $1,000 to Ms. Princess. He is providing an Offer.

Once if Ms. Princess have the intention to purchase the LV bag, it will not form a contract yet unless she provides or prove the evidence that she wants to buy. Therefore, if Ms. Princess decided to buy and pay the $1,000 to Mr. Prince, at that moment, contract has been made. )Sales of Goods Act 1979, Section 2 subsection 2 (1) to 2 (5).

根据法律条约，买卖条款第14条，第2B项，卖方必须将没有明显瑕疵的商品售出，否则将是毁约－－Breach of Contract. 

Based on the Sales of Goods Act 1979 Section 14 subsection 2B is the ensure that seller is selling goods in good quality and condition, which should be fit with purpose, appearance and finished, certain standard of safety, not faulty and durable. Without providing these factors, there will be treated as a Breach of Contract.

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With Love,

J.C.

P.s

这只是极为细小部分的合约知识。下次再继续！

This is just the minor minor and basic knowledge of contract. Will be continue...

Xoxo

物质篇 Nothing more but superficial

我其中一个藏梦想的地方是我的 ”秘密许愿盒“。 这盒子里面装有各个我想要的物品。 没有内涵，纯粹就是很物质的东西！

Yes, I have secretly kept a wishing box for myself these days. There are loads and loads of items which I am demanding and longing for. Nothing really meaningful, but extremely superficial. :DD

我个人非常注重“品质”这回事，价钱第二。不要误会，我并不是往奢华那方面走，我的理念是：既然是要花钱买了，与其买个便宜但是不耐用的东西，把钱浪费了，倒不如付多一点，取个实用＋耐用的物品，用上很长的时间。这观念跟投资差不多。而且我是用东西非常粗鲁的女人。什么牌子对我来讲都一样，总之就是要经得起折腾。。

If you know me well, you will certainly knew that I care lots about "quality" for more than price. Please don't get me wrong, I didnt mean about those things which are excess of luxurious. My personal theory is that I will spend money anyway, so why dont I pay more a bit and get a greater quality rather than spending lesser with something might not lasting long. In the sense that it is some theory as investment, you know. In the meantime, I am particularly those type of mean and rough person when using stuff, so what I really need is those goods which can survive from torture.

家父是个非常好的例子。从小到大，每次阿隆哥出门公干回家的时候，行李都会有给我，姐姐和益隆太太的礼物。阿隆哥每次出手都是以阔气和大方为主。我记得很常看到阿隆哥送益隆太太包包，都是黑黑色和褐褐色的包。长大了，懂事了，才知道他们原来是俗称的：LV 或 Chanel。。

What my parents did will provide the best example. Since the time I was really really little and young, every time my dad came back from oversea, there's always presents inside the luggage, for me, my sis and too, my mom. Things that my father got is always "good and cute", i would put it this way. I remember when I was little, I always saw that my dad present my mom those bags which are mostly in black or brown colour. And until I grown up a bit, then I knew that those things called LV or Chanel.

有人或许觉得把几千块消费在一个包上时间浪费且奢侈的行为。但我的看法是恰好相反。因为该考虑的不是价钱或品牌，是品质和实用的长久性。你相信吗，我现在平时上学超复古的LV工事包其实是我妈十多年前的礼物！你说，值不值？！

Part of the people might think that it is to superficial and wasting of money to spend thousands for a bag. Contrary, my though is perfectly oppose to it. I always assumes that when we purchasing a good, the consideration should always be focus on the real quality and the lifetime of those goods instead of price. The real evidence will be my daily LV school bag. It looks incredibly vintage and oldish. Well, it suppose to be because it was one of the presents from my dad to mom more than 10 years ago. There will be no where you can find another one with the same design cause it is just "vintage"..

老娘人好，所以决定今天开放和大家分享我的“秘密许愿盒”里的其中一些物品。这一集均以目前能力范围内可以得到的商品：

As you know, I am always a good and sweet person :DD. So what I am gonna do today is to open up my wishing box and share some of the items inside. Obviously I have thousands of list for what I want, but well, I will only show those essential that I am gonna get no longer.

认识我的人都应该了解：蝴蝶结＋粉红色＝我

Ya, you can easily tell thats about J with PINK and Bow, dont you??

耳环，来自Ted Baker， £29

再来一个蝴蝶结高根，专配我的深色洋装+套装

Yes, again, another bow on the cute heels. Perfect for my dark coloured dresses and outfits.

Ted Baker,  £80

又来一个TB的钱包，看似平凡，但是质料非常好，而且重点是它的开关非常特别！

Another good from TB. It looks simple but as I am a typical leather lover, this is just the best. And you ought to know how cute is the gold part to open the wallet. It is just CUTE!

Ted Baker, £89

要很久的一双高根！！

Still longing for it!!!

Charlotte Olympia, £500++

最近存钱存很凶，就是为了这玩意儿！

Yes, I am saving money, and seriously, I am putting so much effort, just to get this silly ballerina!

Louis Vuitton, £360

英国冬天必备的超大围巾。因为即使到了室内，我可以把它摊开然后把自己裹在里面，保暖！

I should say, the essential for the weather in England. A huge and thick scarf/shawl. Perfect to keep me warm outdoors and I can also wrap myself in the indoor!

Louis Vuitton, £430

专业人士必备品－－超大容量工事包。妈妈送的包包虽然可爱，但是以法律系学生的文件，根本不够！这包包的容量应该勉强过关。。

Another essential item for professional people like me :DD Though the vintage school bag from my mom is cute as well, but the volume is really limited for my statutes and cases... so, I guess I do Need a top handle bag.

Prada, £895

目前我的皮包库里没有一个类似这样的手提包，很喜欢它的原因：颜色深，高贵而且适合向我这样粗鲁的人，形状适合裙子也适合牛仔裤。

Finally, we come to the last but not the least... The reason why I like this bag is the color, classy and oldish just fit for my personality. It's flexible and easy to match with either my dresses or normal jeans.

Prada, £1150

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With Love,

J.C.

P.s

如果给我许愿，送我一件最想要的是什么？

If there is an opportunity to get what I wish for, guess what will I ask?

我要像我父亲一样会宠爱老婆和孩子的完美男人，一劳永逸！因为当丈夫疼爱自己的太太时，我相信即使是要天上的星星他都会不顾一切的摘给我。

Bags and heels? Noo nooo... I will ask for a perfect man who have exactly same characteristic as my father. Cause I knew that if I have this type of husband, I will be dare enough to wish for a star in the sky cause he will be loving me so much that he will willing to get it for me no matter what...

这样的男人已经濒临绝种。难得还有一个结果被我妈给先占走了，真可恶！

Unfortunately, from the economist point of view, the sources are certainly scarce and lake of supply while excess of demand. And screw my mom, there was one of them left but my mom had grabbed it before me!

你说如果回到我爸诗巫老家那边找，会不会还有剩啊？

Will you think there is someone left if I go back to my dads hometown and seek for it? You never know...

Xoxo

j ----> J

以前在家的时候，妈妈每次都会摸着我的手，一边碎碎念的说：“你的手又白又滑！人家一看就知道是没有做过家务的手。”

Remember years ago, my mom love to touch my hands and say:"Look at your hand, silky and white. With these hands, people will definitely knew that you are those type of people who never did any housework."

是啊，当时的双手的确嫩又滑。可不是吗？以前没事的时候，我总喜欢把乳液擦在双手，香香的，滑滑的。闲空的时候，应该说几乎每天，就坐在电视机前面，边看电视，边涂指甲油。心血来潮的时候，也会帮益隆太太服务，帮她涂指甲油，帮她指甲彩绘，画花朵。。

Indeed... What I used to do, is keep pasting creams on my hands. When I'm free, no, suppose to be everyday, I used to sit in front of the television, watching tele and coloring my nails. When I'm in the mood, I will help my mom to color her nails as well as drawing some flowers on it.

我记得每次帮益隆太太涂指甲油过后，不到两天，就开始脱落。我当时百思不解，每次问妈妈为什么指甲油到了她的手上总是很快脱落。她总会很无奈的说 “我是有做家事的人，双手碰到水或是洗衣粉当然会脱落，不像你命好，什么事都不用做！”。当时的我在想，我买的指甲油都是贵但实用的，所以不会是它的问题；做家务？我每天洗澡的时候，也碰到水，也用沐浴乳，又不见得我的指甲油像她一样，那么容易掉落。

The thing is that, when I used to color my moms nails, no matter which brand of nail polish I have chosen, it will always fade or drop very soon, and I mean, VERY SOON. I tend to feel weird and keep asking my mom for the reason? And she always goes "You know, I do works, I clean and wash, not like you, always do nothing!" In those days, I always get confuse because I am using the same nail polish, but it always last forever. With those reasons she gave, I always assumed that was absurd and nonsense.

知道最近我发现到非常恐怖的一件事情。。

Until recently, I actually discovered something really scary and creepy...

虽然我身在英国，那个爱每天涂指甲油的死性还是不改！每次擦，每次觉得自己手上的死皮越来越多，而且还有干裂的状况，我发誓，真的很恐怖。我看着我的双手，心里很害怕，一直像为什么会这样？！

Though I am now far away from home, the habit of changing nail colors daily is still valid and keep proceeding! Yet, every single time when I change the color, the more dead skin I discovered on my fingers. I swear, this thing freaks me out!!! I feel incredibly scary and have no clue where does it comes from!

后来，我终于找出端倪。。在这不比在家啊！以前，回到家，衣服一脱往洗衣篮一丢，拍拍屁股便是走人；肚子饿了只要喊“妈咪”，要吃什么有什么；房间脏了，嘴巴一张又工人收拾。任何大小事，电话一拨就自然有人会搞定，任何事情都迎仞而解。。。

Eventually, I've found the real factor... Blindingly obvious that my life in UK is entirely different from home. The day before..... Once I got home, take off my clothes, throw it into the laundry basket and leave immediately. Washing clothes?? Never ever appear in my "to-do-list" and I always thought that I was a nature, something happen naturally. When I am hungry I just need to open my bedroom door and shout :"Mom, I want food!". When my room is messy, I will sitting on the cosy sofa and my maid will clean it for me. I wasn't really worry about anything because once I make a call, everything will be settled by the cutest secretary in the world!

这里，衣服一样回到家就脱了丢进洗衣篮，但是却得自己洗。肚子饿了，喊破喉咙叫妈咪是没有人回应我的，没有选择，只有自己煮给自己吃。更糟的是食物还不一定是自己想吃的，有时想要吃肉骨茶，想吃泰式鸡饭和珍珠奶茶还有榴莲，唯一的办法就是把自己打晕，然后到梦里去吃个痛快！房间脏了，没有工人让我使唤，灰尘马桶自己清，卫生纸没有工人自动换，掉落的头发塞住了通水道也没有人帮忙，只能自己蹲下自己挖！任何大小事，都凭自己的双脚走，自己的双手做。

In UK, I retain the same habit, take off my clothes and throw it into the laundry basket. The difference is that there will be no one to wash it for me but myself. When I am hungry, there will be no one cooking for me no matter how many times I shout "Mom". When my room is messy and dusty? The only thing I can do is to fold up my sleeves and start to clean my own instead of waiting for my maid who will never appear here. What I am proud of myself is that when the shower drain is stucked with dirts and hairs, I squat down and clean those dirts by myself! :DD

以前回到家，可以跟我姐，黄辣椒看电视读时尚杂志，我们可以因为很笨很无聊的事情疯狂的大笑，也会因为很微不足道的事情吵架，然后再和好。在这里回到家，面对的是四面墙，没有人，没有声音，好可怕！以前在家，无聊的时候就去捉弄我的小狗，Pinky，让她生气，逗她玩；现在无聊了，只能去运动，吃着零食上网看戏。

I remember that I used to stay at home sitting on the sofa watching tele and reading fashion magazines with my sister. We laugh with the maximum volume about those silly stuff or we quarrel with each other because of the most stupid reason in the world. We then apologize with each other again later. In the UK, once I got home, all I am facing is those boring walls, without anyone nor sounds, which freaks me out sometimes! When I was at home, I can make fun with my little Pinky. Whilst now, the only choice that I have is going for exercise, eating snaks, sipping coke or wine, watching youtube programme when I am boring.

从小到大，从有没有到拥有自己很大的房间，这十八年来都是跟益隆太太睡同一间房间，睡同一张床，抢同一张被！这也同时意味着我拥有了十八年的私人按摩师。因为每次晚上睡前，我说：“妈妈，扒背！”或是 “妈妈，我腰骨又痛了”，益隆太太总是会说：“你他妈的！”，然后默默把手申到我的睡衣里，帮我扒背和按摩。有的时候很好笑，益隆太太很爱睡的时候被我叫扒背和按摩，她都会很勉强的帮我按，然后忽然停下。有时候会敷衍扒两下就赶快把手收走，有时就索性意思意思的把手搁在我的背上，继续睡去。。

I have been sleeping in the same room, laying on the same bed and using the same blanket with my mom since the day I born. In a sense that I have been having a personal massage assistant for 18 years cause every time before I sleep and I go "Mom, massage" or "Mom, my backbones is hurting again", my mom will first say "screw you", then put her hands on my back silently and start the massage treatment in the next minute. The main point here is that I am having FREE massage with no time limit!

以前晚餐通常都是工人把饭菜送到楼上客厅，好让我边看电视边吃饭享受。但每到阿隆哥从国外回家的时候，我总是喜欢跑到楼下，整家人在厨房一起吃饭，听阿隆哥在外经历的故事，最爱听他说道理。这男人，每次都幽默的说教，既而成为全天下我最尊敬，最服从的男人。

My maid used to send my meals to the the second floor instead of me, walking down to the dining room so that I can enjoy my food and watching tele at the same time. But when my dad comes back from oversea, I will always rush down and have dinner with my family, listen to those stories that my dad had had when he was traveling around and I LOVE all his sharing thoughts, forever.

以前中学时期，我和几个死党组成“反派党”。其中一位成员－－不来恩（Bryant），他是我们当中最早考到驾驶执照的人，所以我们每次都会胁迫和狭持他载我们去吃东西！没有选择的情况下，他每次只能乖乖就范。我最爱叫他载我去买珍珠奶茶和肯德鸡，乱婆最爱去Mega Hotel吃点心。。那时侯的我们，思想很单纯，友谊自然也单纯。我们之间，没有所谓的“秘密”，我们分享大部分的人生，我们喜欢用一样的东西，我们讲属于我们自己才会明白的笑话和语言。我们因为其中一个人开心而开心，伤心而伤心。我很幸运，因为这种不曾因时间而改变的友谊，我在对的时间，遇上对的朋友，就这样，我幸福的拥有全世界最珍贵的友谊。任何事，物都不能取代的友情。

During my secondary school, I met all my best friend gang in my life. We formed a group and there is one of the members--Bryant, he is the first guy beyond us who got his driving license. Therefore, for our own benefits, we always force him to fetch us for lunch. He have no choice but to get into the car and drive us to wherever we wanna go! :DD We were so simple and naive at those time, we have no such thing as "secret", we share most of our lives and stories, we love using the same thing, we say those words and make those particular jokes which will only understand by each of us! I am definitely lucky, cause I have such a friendship which will never ever change due to the flowing time. Meeting the right friends at the right moment proves that I am the luckiest person in the world who have such a friendship! There is nothing able to change the friendship, and I mean, nothing..

这些小小的琐碎事，看似平凡，却是让我成为小幸福的其中一个很重要的元素。亲爱的你们，我好爱你们！！我爱你们为我做的每一件事情，我爱你们成为我生命的一部分，我爱你们给我的每一个回忆！！有你们，我很幸福，很幸福，很幸福！

These all little things, seems so normal in life. But you know, if I really summing up all those people and stuff together, it will be the real reasons which make my life so meaningful and beautiful. Dear all, you know, I love you all, very very much!! I love every thing that you guys did for me, love you guys being a part of my life, loving every single memory that you guys gave to me!!! 

随时间流逝，现在的我，眼前的一切都大不相同。回到家没有姐陪我大笑陪我吵架，没有妈妈陪我喝下午茶，帮我按摩，煮东西给我吃，没有爸爸给我说教讲道理，没有朋友陪我一起痴，一起狂，没有工人服侍和打理生活的一切事物。回到家，面对的只有那冰冷的四面墙。

As time goes by, things changed and become so much different compare to the time before. Nowadays, no ones there fight with me, no free massage assistant, no one cook for me, no one hi-tea with me, no one do silly things me with, no one helps me out to clean and tidy the room. Everytime I arrived my room, all I have is those icy walls.

无可奈何花落去，似曾相识燕归来。人生会拥有，也会失去，无可奈何，不可避免。我曾放不下那些我失去的一切（如我和朋友们的回忆），或是我暂时无法得到的一切（如父母的陪伴）。我曾难受，曾哭泣，曾孤单，曾害怕。

This is all about life. You will certainly gain something yet you will also lose another thing at the same time. No choice, no way to avoid. There was a time, I was having difficulty to accept those things that I've lost (such as those sweet memories), or those things I have lost temporarily (like the company of my family and friends). I feel sad, feel like crying, feel lonely, feel unsecure...

但是日子，总是要过的。这一切，是我人生必修的课程，既然躲不过，我会勇敢坚强的面对。带着每一个你们给我的回忆，你们给我的爱和支持继续往前走，幸福的抱着希望走下去！

However, life is continuing no matter what. This is exactly the lesson that I have to learn out of the textbook. I can't predict what will happen as well as avoid. So the only way I have is be stronger enough to face the truth. I will go along, together with all those memories, all those courages and support. Go along, with my aggregation of happiness...

－ － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － － 

With Love,

J.C.

P.s

以前我痛恨别人说我是大小姐。每次听到那些三姑六婆说我是小姐的时候，心里就会有团无明火涌在心头。现在往回头一看，想一想，以前的我，的确是什么都不懂的井底蛙。但是现在，不同了，不再是靠别人过日子的小姐，我是靠自己的智慧和努力而奋斗的小鸟，关不住的鸟儿！

I hate when people say that I am a little princess at home before. But now when I looked back and try to think about it, I suppose I kinda was, the girl who knew nothing and always living in my own world. But now, things are different! I'm not the kind of girl who needs help for every little thing. I am developing more than I can, to do things by my own abilities.


I am small, but I am strong. :DD

正在翱翔中，努力变得强大中。。。。

I'm flying, like a bird, in the whole blue sky, happily, freely....

Xoxo

Home sweet home...

我是个从小待在父母掌心上呵护的小珍珠，不知道什么叫吃苦，不知道钱打哪来，不知道天高地厚，不知道世界多大。我活在自己的童话故事里，当自己世界的公主整整十八年！

记得当初我还在童话世界里的时候，什么事情都只要开口，身边的大臣们都会一一帮我解决。放假时每天早上醒来，房门打开，家佣早已把我最爱的热腾腾的咖啡和早餐放在房外。任何文件都不需要操心，打个电话到爸爸公司请秘书们帮忙，一些都搞定！

可是好花不常，好景不长，该是美梦醒来，要面对现实的时候。在英国，再也不是家里的公主，而是社会里一个任何大小事物都要靠自己的灰姑娘。因为是自己选择的路加上自己的死性格，就是今天遇到什么让我受伤难过，让我想窝囊的掉泪，让我精疲力尽，让我挫折的时候，我都不愿意跟家人或朋友讲。知道事情解决了，过了，我才会说。不然就是有的时候很想诉苦的时候，顶多透漏一些，包装一下再讲。。

其实这不苦，是我学着坚强。不再像小孩一样什么都告状，不再当家里的井底之蛙，不再当众人眼中的花瓶，不再当易烂的草莓。

我是小草，任人践踏，任大风吹袭，任大雨浇湿，也还是倔强，屹立不倒，稳当当的在草原里待着的小草。

我是关不住的麻雀，小小的身子，却装着无穷无尽的理想和抱负，载着轻盈的身躯往梦想飞去。

我是充满热诚的太阳，会遇到无情的乌云和可怕的雷电，但是依然勇敢的坚持着，等待晴天再度来临，然后继续骄傲的绽放在高高晴空，自信的画出属于自己的彩虹。

我是我，我是小幸福。

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最近一次让我想念童话公主的生活是前两天，开始要为明年找房子的事情，好困扰。住在宿舍的这一年，老实说，我就是硬着头皮，咬紧牙关，死命撑下去。

这宿舍里聚集无数人，来自不同地方，好多奇怪的人！我想是我的干爹－老天想看看我究竟在英国的“坚强”这一课有没有及格，所以干脆给我来个考试。这栋楼里我遇到重重难关，从一开始每天半夜被那些变态的住客吓醒，哭着入睡，被醉汉吓个半死，被邻居恶整，被室友欺负占便宜，被脏鬼折磨，都是小事。。到现在，我想我也算是及格了吧，因为我也慢慢适应，勇敢面对和解决，学着慢慢笑看这些傻事。

每次我觉得自己难受，委屈的时候，家父都会告诉我同一句话。他会说：没事！天降大任于斯人也，毕先苦其心志， 劳其胫骨，饿其体肤，空乏其身。意思就是说天要降我重大的任务前，必定会先让我受尽一切苦头，会先让我内心痛苦，让我身躯劳累，让我经历肌饿的煎熬，面临贫穷的痛苦。因为只有经历这一切大浪，我才会什么都不畏惧的面对任何事情。家父这句话，我受用一辈子。

我决定大学第二年，不要住宿舍，搬出去。一来保障我自己的安全，再来是学会如何打理一个家，小小的家。但是英国有一些奇怪的规定很奇怪，搞得我现在遇到瓶颈，非常烦恼。。真的很烦恼！

最近很积极的开始寻找房子。我那追求完美的个性怎么样都是不会变。别人说我挑剔，我苛刻。可是对我来说，对于重要的事情，本应该追求和争取最好的，不是吗？更何况对于宅女来说，家是非常重要的，地点要好，风水要好，安全要好，设备要全，价钱要合理。这些都是基本。

心里其实已经看中一间房间，所有我要的设施它们都提供，最重要的是，那是刚建起的大厦，有花园，设施完美。但是美中不足的地方就是他们不合理的要求。

他们限定今年三月要我下定金，并且开始每个月付房租。不便宜啊，一个月650英镑。是多少员工一个月的工资和开销。。有些人甚至还没有那么大的酬劳。。

我可爱的妈妈听到这么一回事，完全想都没想就说，650就650，我们付得起，最重要是安全，一直叫我不要担心钱的事情，不要给自己负担。我真的觉得她的这席话让我觉得很温暖，很感动，因为她在乎得永远是我的益处。。我很少跟我的父亲讲这些有关钱的事情，因为无论我今天说再多的钱，我的父亲永远只会给我一句话：“买！没问题！”。有的时候真的搞不清他的慷慨是好是坏！

跟大家分享我最满意的一栋大厦－－Mass House。

 因为建筑工程还没完全竣工，所以进入大厦前必须要做好安全措施。

刚进大门，就看到一片空地，这里将来会是专属于住客的秘密花园，可以在这里喝咖啡，上网，看书等。。

走廊

未拆封的大门

这是客厅。里面的家私也包括在内。。

客厅里的小厨房。。

超小的饭桌

超小的洗碗台

这是Dishwasher.就是专门洗碗和烘干碗碟用的。。所以我说英国人怪懒惰的，连碗都不愿意洗。。真丢人！

沙发

 卧房。

冲凉房。有些楼层是有泡澡池和洗澡间一起的，因楼层而异。

很简单典雅的厕所

 这小柜子里未来将置放洗衣机和烘干机。

门铃

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接下来带大家看看另一间房间的设计

入口处

厨房

 客厅

卧房

卧房里有片超大的镜子！超好！

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With Love,

J.C.

P.S

最近被房子的事搞得一头雾水！但我知道事情很快会解决，我很快会找到属于自己完美的房子！祝我好运，各位！

Xoxo

New Soul, Better J

新的一年，对我来说，该做的就是保留和延续以往的好习惯，同时研发更多的好习惯，添加人生的意义和充实度，活得更精彩。

For my personal view, what I suppose to do in the brand new year is to retain the good ones from last year and discover more good stuff in this year. Just to make sure that my life will be more wonderful and meaningful..

我想是跟随到阿隆哥的志气，我从不轻易低头。往好方面想我是坚持原则的人，但是换个方式，你可以说我是倔强，我承认，我不会反驳。

I am pretty sure that my personality of being harsh sometimes is come from my father. I never give up easily. For the brighter side, I am the kind of person who follow and stick with my principle, on the other way round, you can also assume that I am a headstrong person. Well, I admin it, and will not try to defend myself.

家父同时是个非常有理想兼有魄力的男子汉。任何事情对他来说都不是个问题，只会是好事。我想我身上的因子多少也遗传了父亲的特质。我常常觉得虽然是女人，但是我想做个靠自己的女人。我从来不吃“靠老公养”的这一套。当然，有个疼你爱你的丈夫给你安稳幸福的生活是每个女人的梦想，但同时我总觉得我自己的人生应该由我自己负责。

In the meantime, my father is also the kind of man who has definitely clear and certain aim for life. Every problem for him is always not a problem. Although I am a lady, I do like to depend on myself instead of waiting my husband to take care of my life. Indeed, women always looking for the real man that we can rely on for the whole life long, however, I still think that I should responsible and controlling my life by myself..

敝母每次听到我这么说，她都会大摇头说：完了！！这下你是想要变成女强人了。每当话题到这里，我娘总是很忧心的告诉我，女人最重要是找个值得依靠一生的男人。就算我是个女强人，日子久了，年纪大了，总还是会想停下来休息，当自己丈夫的好媳妇，当自己孩子的好妈妈。

Every single time when it comes to this topic, my mom always get so worried and saying that: omg, so now you wanna become the independent woman? She always tell me how crucial it is to find a man who can take a good care of me. And no matter how hardworking, how strong I am, there is still one day I do like to settle down and rest, starting to becomes a good wife and a caring mom.

我明白我母亲的意思。或许是现在的我还年轻，我总是觉得人生本来就是追求自己觉得应该和开心的事情。乘着自己还年轻，有能力的时候，我还是想要努力追求自己想要的一切，为生活拼一拼，等将来老了，至少我回味生活点点滴滴的时候，是满足的，是充实，而不是遗憾。

I get what my mom meant. I think it is because I am still young and I always assume that life is all about chasing and realise every single dream, do whatever makes me feel happy. Since I still have the ability, I do like to realise as much dreams as I can, at least when I get to the day, when I am sitting in the wheel chair with all my grey hairs and think about all those memories in my life, are always sweet, meaningful and colourful!

所以现阶段对我来说，安定下来，结婚待在家当管事不会是我计划里的一项条款。因为我就是不会甘心自己在人生最值钱的时间里，把一次次的机会往别处丢，一项项梦想往地上踩，你知道，我不是这样的人。

For me, now, settling down, get married and stay at home doing nothing is definitely not in my life plan. It is because I dont wanna waste all my essential moment, leaving any opportunity aside, throwing all by dreams away, cause this is just not me.

就像我当初选择来英国这远不拉机的地方修读大学。有人不相信，有人质疑，有人取笑，但我不曾后悔我的决定，反之，我引以为傲。虽然当初很两难，因为我深深明白选择来英国，我必须放弃很多东西，为此付出很大的代价。但是我依然往前走，我选择完成自己的梦想。因为我一直都相信，那些值得的每一件事情，不会因为短暂的离去而消失，它们都会在不远的未来，痴痴的等着我归来。

Just like that time before I came to UK. Some people don't believe that I'm gonna do that, someone suspect my ability, someone laughing and say it's impossible, blah blah... I never regret on my decision to come here for studying. Reversely, I am proud of myself.. :)) 

现在老娘的想法，没别的，只想要借助身边所有人的支持和力量，一步一脚印，慢慢完成心里一个个愿望。成为强大的人，保护我爱的人和爱我的人。

I have no much though at the moment but do what I want to do, step by step, moving forward to my successful and meaningful life, becoming stronger and wider, to protect and give helps to those people who I love and who loves me.

老实说，我的肩上有个透明的背包。它的重量随时间而改变。包里装的是所有人包括我对自己的期望，是我对自己的责任。。虽然有时会超重，虽然有时也觉得累，但是至少我真的很开心，因为我选择了一条我觉得前途明亮，让我满意的光明大道。

I tend to feel that there is a transparent huge bag on my shoulder, as time goes by, it gets heavier and heavier. Inside the bag contains all those expectations and responsibility from everyone and also myself. I can be really heavy, which makes me feel tired sometimes, but I am still happy and satisfy with my decision to chose a bright side of life.

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我给自己立下了2011年必须达到的目标，其中最重要的是：

I've set some goals to achieve in 2011, it consists:

1。花更多的时间研究功课，确保自己的成绩一直在水准上

Spend even more time on study and make sure I will have good marks in term 2

 2。饮食要注意，减少糖份摄取量和生活规律

Be aware of my diet, less suger intake, more organising lifestyle

 3。多做运动，目的是减肥和有益身心
Do exercise, aiming for keeping fit and healthy lifestyle

现在的我和好伙伴Vanessa，每个星期里抽三天运动
And I do put effort to stick on my plan and achieving my goals, three days every week for exercise

星期一 Monday：Hi／Lo Aerobic

星期三 Wednesday：Studio Cycling

星期四 Thursday：Box Exercise

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With Love,

J.C.

Xoxo